It doesn’t matter who we are married to or for how long, sooner or later communication is going to be a problem. And it doesn’t matter how much we are in love. Misunderstandings and miscommunications are going to cause anger, frustrations and hurt feelings. So, here are some very simple ways you can increase the communication with your spouse. (Adapted from The Whole-Hearted Marriage by Dr. Greg Smalley & Dr. Shawn Stoever) Compliment your spouse before you part for the day. Don’t let someone else be the first to do that! Show affection. Not a wave, not a pathetic little ...
For the first eight years of our marriage, in our kitchen there sat a black knife block. You know, one of those holders that conveniently allows knives to sit out and be ever ready for the cook who needs to grab one.
One of the major causes of conflict in any relationship is not hearing what the other person is saying. Most of us are waiting for an opportunity to get our point across instead of listening to what we are hearing. Active listening is paying close attention to more than just the words. It picks up on tone, inflection, body position, change of skin color, rhythm, emotions, breathing and eyes. In fact, the actual words may mean very little (“No, I loved it,” he screamed angrily).