Topics: Single Parenting, Parenting

How to Parent the Teen Parent, Part 2: What We Learned

Sep 25, 2014 11:58:00 AM | by Jenni Bohn

No one expects to become grandparents while their child is still in high school.

(You may be interested in reading the first post in this series, How to Parent the Teen Parent: Education First.)

While it wasn’t how we thought life would turn out, it was the journey we were given. Through the highs and lows, we’ve learned some valuable lessons.

How Parenting a Teen Parent Change Our Lives 

  • My daughter was able to learn about being a mother in a very natural way, with gentle daily guidance and example.
  • We've survived struggles that many people don't have, and it has brought us closer and made us learn the art of communication and compromise.
  • My husband and I have been able to have the kind of relationship with our grandson that many grandparents could only dream about. Even after our daughter moved out, we were her main support network and primary childcare providers, so we've been able to influence our grandson's upbringing in a very tangible, vital way.
  • Our daughter not only finished high school, but has gone on to further beat the odds by earning an associate's degree in college. Statistics say that less than 2% of teen parents will earn a college degree by the time they are 30. She's currently making herself part of an even smaller statistic by working on a bachelor's degree, and plans to continue on for her master's in social work - which she should finish when she's 27 or 28.

Parenting a teen parent can be such a tricky road to travel, full of pot holes and land mines. But it is also so crucial to avoiding the cycle of poverty and non-education. And yes, there are the hidden rewards of pulling together to give your teen - and now your grandchild - the best start possible.